Choosing a child custody lawyer is one of the most important decisions you will make:

  • Look for a lawyer who specifically practices family law.

  • Meet with more than one lawyer.

  • Take a close look at the lawyer's demeanor and temperment. 

For every client, the right lawyer is out there, you just need to find them.


Look for a lawyer who specifically practices family law.

Child custody and child support are some of the most complex and emotional legal processes in family law. You want to make sure it's done right. 

You want a child custody attorney who specifically practices family law. California family law is technical and specific. It operates by its own set of rules, and it's much different from other areas of law.


You want to make sure you understand all of your options and rights; you need to know that all of the paperwork, whether a trial brief or a settlement agreement, is top notch. Again, you want to make sure it's done right, otherwise you're wasting your money and putting everything at risk.

If you have a child custody or child support dispute in Los Angeles, it's important to hire a Los Angeles family law attorney who is familiar with the local family law judges and with Los Angeles County court room customs and procedure.

Meet with more than one lawyer.

Every lawyer has a different style of practice - there are endless combinations of personality, demeanor, philosophy, and strategy. That goes for clients too - clients (and their co-parents) all have different temperaments that will impact the case. The only way to assess if it's a good fit is to meet with more than one lawyer.


Is this lawyer listening to you and showing compassion? Is this lawyer giving an honest assessment? Remember, anything that seems too good to be true usually is. Any lawyer who "guarantees" that a judge will do one thing or another is, frankly, lying. Ask that lawyer to get their guarantee in writing, and you will see a quick backtrack.

Take a close look at the lawyer's demeanor and temperament. 

You're looking for a child custody lawyer to resolve disagreements you already have, not to pick more fights.  You're looking for a lawyer who can solve your problems, not create more problems.


When you meet with lawyers, carefully evaluate their temperaments. Look for someone calm, cool, and collected.  You don't want to waste your money on ego wars and tactics that don't serve your goals. You want someone who can see beyond conflict.  You want to get out of this mess as cost-efficiently as possible.

That said, child custody and child support representation can take on many forms. Some cases are litigated, some are negotiated, some are a mix of both.


Some clients are able to settle directly with their exes, but still need a lawyer to help evaluate offers, guide the negotiation, and draft the settlement paperwork.

Whenever possible, our attorneys negotiate child custody disputes to be resolved out of the court room. Ongoing litigation is time consuming, expensive, and tends not to be in the best interest of children. A cost-benefit analysis shows that it is almost always best to settle out of court.


That said, we know that many people have to fight to achieve fair and equitable custody and child support arrangements. Co-parents do not always act in good faith regarding child custody disagreements or arrangements. They also are not always forthcoming nor honest about finances, income, assets, or debts. Some co-parents will use litigation just to hurt the other spouse. 


Our attorneys use every tool in the box to ensure we have the documents and evidence we need to prove your case. You're entitled to records relating to child custody.  When needed, we work with private custody evaluators, private co-parenting counselors, parenting plan assessors, and professionally supervisors for visitations. In a child support dispute, you're entitled to financial records including pay stubs, tax returns, bank and financial statements, credit card statements and more. These financial records can be subpoenaed from the opposing party or directly from financial institutions.  

Whether negotiating, litigating, or both, you want to work with a family law attorney who is prepared, thorough, responsive, and sensitive to your family's needs. It's critical to be empowered with knowledge and guidance during a child custody or child support dispute.


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